WHEN YOU DON'T HAVE MONEY TO SPEND ON YOUR CHILD....

I KNOW SOMETHING EVEN BETTER!

SPEND YOUR TIME ON THEM!

It certainly is hard, to look at those precious little ones that you love so dearly, and wish you could buy certain things for them, but you can't. But, dear mother, I'm afraid that trouble may be worse for you than that child. You may  know what 'he might be missing' but he/she doesn't have to!

You see momma, you can spend your time on that child! Whatever measure of money you lack, give back that measure in your time!

We mothers can trouble ourselves plum silly, thinking our children are going to grow up so 'troubled' from the lack of 'things' we couldn't afford in their childhood. Ladies, that does NOT have to be true! (Trust me, they'll figure 'life' out sooner or later, just like you and I did!) But seriously, if you can keep reassuring them of your affection for them and that even though 'times are tough', they are still very much wanted and valued, they will be just fine.

I will say though, that there are times, especially with older children, who may have saw many 'better days', that they may have a harder time adjusting to 'rougher times'. But, I'm of the mind that if God allows this for your family, then it is for every member of them to learn something- not with bitterness and anger in their hearts- but rather thankfulness and contentment. He loves them and is more than capable of providing just what HE wants them to have.

Here's something I wrote the other day:
Driving back home...traffic was bad and I was looking at the parking lots of some of the restaurants...packed out.    Some do that every day. They get off work, go out to eat....eating, drinking, and making merry. But sometimes God puts us in a place, where every day, it is looking to Him- for provision for that day....for guidance, that day..... Living in such a way, that He is not forgotten, not even for a moment.   Our lives are built all the way around the Lord.We aren't living to get off work, grab the paycheck, go to eat, go to shop,
go to the movies, go go go go.....    Not that there is anything wrong with going out to eat etc.... just that some people's lives are ordered around the wrong things...and well... if we had lots of money (I speak for my family)...I'm not sure that we wouldn't forget the Lord a little more often! :-)
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1 Tim 6:6  But godliness with contentment is great gain.
1 Tim 6:7  For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out.
1 Tim 6:8  And having food and raiment let us be therewith content.

Encouragement ....

I wanted to bring a new post from Brandy, The Prudent Homemaker, to your attention!
Encouragement is along the lines of my When Frugal's Not So Fun Anymore post.
Its written for those, who truly are in a struggle!

Brandy's home page has this comment on it:
This site is dedicated to all those who struggle to put food on the table.
Her new post, Encouragement, was written especially for those.

In this post, Brandy shares a little more personal testimony about some of the struggles that she's been through. Its a blessing to read them and see how she is able to find contentment, in spite of struggles!

When frugal's not so fun anymore....

Today I'm hearing of more and more families who are living frugal because of circumstance rather than fun or planning. Yes, parts of living frugal can be fun, especially for those who are creative and who like to save a buck here to spend it there!

But- what if you've found yourself in a place where circumstances mandate frugality and well-

frugal's just not fun anymore?!

Well, some would say- go spend a little, it'll make you feel better....but you know if you do that then you are either cutting into your light bill or indebting yourself more on a credit card.... which is NOT going to make you feel better in the long run!

So- what do you do?

Well, here's some ideas that I've been pondering over for the last several weeks and I sincerely hope, that if you are one of those that has found that frugal's not so fun anymore, that you will find a little hope and encouragement in something below!

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-Keep learning! I mean through free means, such as the internet or library. Keep educating yourself through blogs, books, and even talking to others. The net is a great way to meet others who are struggling and who are delighted to offer advice. But keep seeking new ways to be frugal and stretch what you have!

-Look for more ways, to make more things, from what you have on hand and from the things that are the most frugal. I always buy the most frugal sacks of plain and self-rising flour that I can find. (Most of you know that I prefer wheat, but we do eat white too from time to time and/or a mix of wheat and white.) Make your own funnel cakes, donuts, and even dog treats!

-Look at your children! Yes- look at them- go on - Now, YOU, dear mother, can make life so amusing for them that they may never know (or at least not until they are older) how tight the money is in their home. Have some frugal summer fun or an indoor picnic. Make home made play dough, sock puppets, finger paints, paper toys, airplanes, science, leaf prints, and cookies (or crackers)! (Let them 'mop' the floor!) Try to keep your children busy and happy! We can make them feel that life is normal and good. We can show them how to respond to trials and tough times- right now! (..By how we respond.)

-You be happy mom! The Bible tells us in Eph. 4:24 to "put on the new man". Mom, did you know you can "put on" a happy face? Look, just like this :-) See how easy that was! Colossians 3:14 and 15 tells us to "put on charity (love)" and also to "let the peace of God rule our hearts....and be ye thankful". If we are thankful, and allow the peace of God to rule our hearts, and we put on "love" for our children; we certainly can be happy! We may not be able to give them every thing that they want, but we can give them what they need; love and a sense of security! But we have to "put on" strength for our children, even if we don't feel so strong! It can be hard, but it can be done. (Phil 4:13)

-Stay busy! Keeping busy, finding ways to be frugal, cook from scratch, make foods in advance for a day you may need to be out, or make a homemade picnic for the yard! School work, home work, house work, kitchen work, yard work, yes busy work, little projects, baking, playing, making up stories, reading stories, coloring in old coloring books, building card houses with a deck of cards, whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might! (Eccl 9:10) When you are busy and you keep your children busy, there's not much time to think and fret. They see you busy, they see you happy, they will want to be busy and happy too!

-Be careful what you say! While I think its reasonable at times to make our needs known or even give a little testimony as to how your family makes it without keeping up with the Jones- you still have to be careful how and to whom you share with. We never want to make the providers of our home look or feel bad. Every family goes through hard times and every adult has a grandparent that made it through the depression! Right? So we'll all get by, and we'll manage what the good Lord gives us as well as we possibly can! But there are those crafty souls out there who might turn what you say into something that it is not, so, let us be wise as serpents and harmless as doves! (Matt 10:16)

-Give thanks! (1Th5:18) Yes, I know sometimes it seems strange to be thankful for what you have, when all you can think about is what you need! But, by making our minds up to be thankful for what we have, we re-route our thinking back to the One Who can supply all our needs! We also teach our children to be thankful, rather than bitter. If we allow ourselves to get bitter, won't our children see that and mimic the same pattern? It is hard- but in giving thanks- we force ourselves to focus on the wonderful blessings that we do have every day! Its so easy to let them be covered up, by despair, worry, and yes, doubt. Would you read this?:

2 Cor 9:8 And God is able to make all grace abound toward you; that ye, always having all sufficiency in all things, may abound to every good work:
2 Cor 9:9 (As it is written, He hath dispersed abroad; he hath given to the poor: his righteousness remaineth for ever.
2 Cor 9:10 Now he that ministereth seed to the sower both minister bread for your food, and multiply your seed sown, and increase the fruits of your righteousness;)
2 Cor 9:11 Being enriched in every thing to all bountifulness, which causeth through us thanksgiving to God.

- Now, one final thought! (Aren't you glad!) That is- focus on the things that are eternal! It will help you! You see- there's always going to be a light bill to worry about, there's always going to be new dust every morning (does this stuff come in 20 gallon buckets!), life's always going to have some sort of stress or worry, but - children aren't children very long! And we have precious precious cargo in our hands as we shape little souls that we desperately desire God to use for Him one day. That job alone is no small task and deserves our utmost attention! I know it can get hard, but when we focus on eternity one day, rather than the water bill being due tomorrow, God can help us to be faithful to our duties, as we wait for Him to be faithful to our needs!
May God help us to run our race well!
This post is linked to Frugal Fridays/Life as Mom, It's All About the Savings, Tuesday's Tips